The Three Things

"Its my life its now or never......", I doubt Bon Jovi ever thought that someday he'll be unconsciously helping people in thinking deep about some seriously unrelated things, but let us just assume he helped. 

Its again a short story about my life, when I was one of those dumb students who were not certain what to take up as future carrier and so the high school subjects and end up taking physics + chemistry + biology + mathematics thinking of to keep my carrier options open and then there was a dwarf like magical creature shaped biology professor with a permanent frowns on his head, told something about things you must not have in life. After taking up engineering with all the time in the world one day i tried recollecting what he said but end up coming up with "all new -things you must not have in life-". I don't know if the old man use to think the same or not, but these three things were quite helping me, making life quite easy. And those things were simple words with devastating power - Ego , Expectations and Anger.

Human nature is a varied one. It is enigma of enigmas. Birth of every possible happening in this world around us, starting from the world wars to Mother Terisa's 5 deed. These three words has the power to control the every such thing.

It is common to have expectations from someone near and dear to you, but does that make you happy to force and place boulders of responsibilities of your expectations over the shoulder of a dear one, You would love yourself to live a free and a happy life where you do things on your own and so does others. And in the end we all have experienced that when your expectations from someone are not full filled, you end up hurting yourself, and its not at all right to hurt yourself, that is stupidity. And over that if you don't keep expectations and someone does something beautiful as you would have expected without your expectations you give yourself a surprise, "HO HO HO... I am my own Santa", and I believe its not wrong to enjoy every movement of life.

Apart from keeping expectations we also have something which make us live not only like apes but lions in caves, you probably would have thought "lion-strong, lion-huge, lion-the king.... etc etc" and not that a lion has something else which keeps him away from other animals and things , and that my friend is ego. Its high time that we realize ego keeps us away from people and from works, never realizing what sort of fun experience one can have or develop new skill and best apart not getting hurt by the ego if you don't have one. imagined how easy it would be to patch-up or even avoid fights between married couples without ego!... apart from the fact that it is the only entertainment they have. Or may be the only way which can create a world of peace, this can be too far fetched but unless you really enjoy fighting with others.

And over every thing is ANGER!!!.... its human tendency to take rash, wrong and most illogical decisions of all times when he is angry, and it is with a total 100% sure that he regrets his decision later unless he has a very high nose. Though anger can be due to many reasons including the ego and expectations, but its always in your hand to take the right decision. Unless you haven't experienced how uneasy it feels when you fight with you best friend one day and decide not to talk to the person again and you realize you really cannot finish your homework without his help, or may be one of those conditions when you really have something nice to share and you feel like dammit!!

Though things can vary at levels but its wise to not get angry over things. In the end we all are social animals and we really are scared of those psychological disorders.

We surely love ourselves and we will find new ways to love ourselves more, and so one step is to not have "The three things" in life.

Ashish Panchal

Observations VS Human concepts

Life is the biggest "_______" you can think of. Its a choice what you wish to fill it with! Mystery or Book or its a question else it can be an answer. Or just a simple "Everything".

Well,  and this "everything" is very intriguing as usual. Today Our cellphones are our Lives.... we can not imagine a day without our daily updates.

And so I would like to tell you a small story about my Cellphone.

One fine day I was walking down the road and I took my cellphone out of my pocket. It slipped from my hand and the battery popped out of it. I picked it up, inserted back the battery and switched it on again. The phone restarted, and so it asked to enter the date and time. Before my actions I got a call and since then that call log is pops at the top of my call logs. Probably it was a glitch of my phone. But it lasted an expression on my face, of amusement.

Though it was one of those boring ones (science and techie stuff). Still I would like to share it with you. The call log was the birth of my thoughts about the things which we do not account, as there was no definition to time reference given to the stupid phone.Well, that is quite true with our lives too. Just like the phone we too share these rare and intriguing characteristics of being stupid, Of making and predicting things from a datum, never striking with the question that "why there has to be a datum and isn't there a datum or the start of things if they exit on their own?"  But NO!, we like to bend things our way. So can anyone account for what was there before the beginning of "Time"?

People can have variable thoughts over this topic, but we are so good at predicting things, Oh yes! we all are like little oracles of our own!! And so we are very good at giving advises even though we know least about the topic we talk about sometimes. What a hilarious world it is.

We intelligent lives, what we believe we are, always want to assume things to be working in a standardized manner, with a simple motive to make things understandable or rather to deceive ourselves with thought that "Now I know it, what nature was hiding!", coming to a conclusion, nature really likes playing "quiz time!" with us.

In the same manner we really don't have a datum to our knowledge. We speculate things and whatever we understand are human translations or mere observations. Well, you never really know how much work was done to make a movie! but you see the end results as a movie!! sitting on your lovely couch. And in the same way predicting things is like pin pointing a tree in a forest. We live far from reality or may be very near, we never know. But if there is no teacher then you have to become your own teacher to survive, that is the way of living. And so we can never give up on predicting things. But this belief of ours has to be in a form of clay and not rocks, as we can never be firm about every thing, as it hurts when we find we were wrong about it later . Like you never know why Bob gave you a missed call last night, was he in danger? or was he calling you for his birthday party?

Anyways, its you to decide, Bob might have dialed your number by mistake. Guessing is fun though, but with an understanding that everything is not certain and it is just a human concept.

Ashish Panchal.