Its again a short story about my life, when I was one of those dumb students who were not certain what to take up as future carrier and so the high school subjects and end up taking physics + chemistry + biology + mathematics thinking of to keep my carrier options open and then there was a dwarf like magical creature shaped biology professor with a permanent frowns on his head, told something about things you must not have in life. After taking up engineering with all the time in the world one day i tried recollecting what he said but end up coming up with "all new -things you must not have in life-". I don't know if the old man use to think the same or not, but these three things were quite helping me, making life quite easy. And those things were simple words with devastating power - Ego , Expectations and Anger.
Human nature is a varied one. It is enigma of enigmas. Birth of every possible happening in this world around us, starting from the world wars to Mother Terisa's 5 deed. These three words has the power to control the every such thing.
It is common to have expectations from someone near and dear to you, but does that make you happy to force and place boulders of responsibilities of your expectations over the shoulder of a dear one, You would love yourself to live a free and a happy life where you do things on your own and so does others. And in the end we all have experienced that when your expectations from someone are not full filled, you end up hurting yourself, and its not at all right to hurt yourself, that is stupidity. And over that if you don't keep expectations and someone does something beautiful as you would have expected without your expectations you give yourself a surprise, "HO HO HO... I am my own Santa", and I believe its not wrong to enjoy every movement of life.
Apart from keeping expectations we also have something which make us live not only like apes but lions in caves, you probably would have thought "lion-strong, lion-huge, lion-the king.... etc etc" and not that a lion has something else which keeps him away from other animals and things , and that my friend is ego. Its high time that we realize ego keeps us away from people and from works, never realizing what sort of fun experience one can have or develop new skill and best apart not getting hurt by the ego if you don't have one. imagined how easy it would be to patch-up or even avoid fights between married couples without ego!... apart from the fact that it is the only entertainment they have. Or may be the only way which can create a world of peace, this can be too far fetched but unless you really enjoy fighting with others.
And over every thing is ANGER!!!.... its human tendency to take rash, wrong and most illogical decisions of all times when he is angry, and it is with a total 100% sure that he regrets his decision later unless he has a very high nose. Though anger can be due to many reasons including the ego and expectations, but its always in your hand to take the right decision. Unless you haven't experienced how uneasy it feels when you fight with you best friend one day and decide not to talk to the person again and you realize you really cannot finish your homework without his help, or may be one of those conditions when you really have something nice to share and you feel like dammit!!
Though things can vary at levels but its wise to not get angry over things. In the end we all are social animals and we really are scared of those psychological disorders.
We surely love ourselves and we will find new ways to love ourselves more, and so one step is to not have "The three things" in life.
Ashish Panchal
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